Several marriages fall apart because men cheat on their wives. Why it is that man seeks company of other women? It can be either due to decreased intimacy in marriage or the desire of men to taste something ‘new’. By knowing the reasons why men cheat you can take necessary precautions and can actually help your relationship.
It is evident from various studies that 75 to 80 percent of men cheat their wives for sexual reasons. Most cited reasons for unfaithfulness in men are usually
- sexual addiction
- desire for different kind of sexual partner
- the desire to feel important
- being sexually active
Low Self Esteem
Men who feel that they are neglected in their relationship often look for someone who lavish attention on them. They look for a new partner who is also in need of attention so that they can share mutual admiration that they were searching for.
Boredom and Curiosity
Boredom is yet another reason for extramarital affairs of men. Most men easily get bored by their routine life and start looking for new adventure and excitement. Life becomes monotonous for men when their wives are too occupied with household chores.
Some men pursue sexual affair only due to curiosity that how it will feel to sleep with other women.
The women who constantly urging and find faults in their husbands are unknowingly giving them reason to cheat. Men mostly complaint about their nagging wives and for the same reason look for a caring and comfortable company of another women.
Besides nagging wives, the problems in relationship after marriage can also contribute to lack of fidelity. As the years pass by wives start giving more attention to kids and household chores. This make husband feel neglected and left alone. Men want attention and when he don’t get it from home he look for the other alternatives.
In a couple number of years there is a rising trend of young husbands (under 30) cheating their wives. Experts suggest that this is due to the increased opportunities to come close to women. For instance, work place and business trips give immense opportunity to develop romantic relationship.
Male ego is one of the crucial underlines factor for men who cheat their wives. Some men believe to be superior to women in every relationship, especially in marriage. The desire to prove their masculine abilities and ability to attract other females lead to affairs.
Some of the extramarital affairs stem out because of peer pressure. Even subtle pressure from co-workers and friend can lead a man to cheat. For instance, friend’s sexual endeavours can persuade a man to cheat his wife.
Cheating men have a history of EMR
Some men, in their childhood, may have witnessed cheating in their parent’s marriage. This somewhere gives them a message that it is okay to cheat, even though deep inside they know this is wrong. All of us learn from our parents, so taking the risk is good enough. This acquired learning also happens through cheating resorts taken by elder siblings, neighbours, peer group and everybody who has been impacted. Sometimes as teenagers and young adults, some men have had multiple relationships, these men either intentionally or accidentally end up going back to their ex-girlfriends. The other lot goes back to their past style of having multiple relationships. It is well said, what a mind thinks, achieves. So there are females also who are either consciously or unconsciously looking for such men.
Cheating men have wives who cheat
Men also take revenge with their cheating wives, by having multiple relationships themselves. Even if their wives are guilty and come accept their extra-marital relationships, some men continue with their tricks. This is mostly done by men who don’t want to forgive their spouses.
Cheating men think it to be ‘divorce’
Some men are willfully adulterous and use it as a means for acquiring divorce. The law also considers adultery as a fair ground for the wife to seek a divorce. The man is cheating openly and is in a non-receptive mood, taking the wife’s feelings of frustration to an all-time high. Although this percentage is less but it is there.